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Here’s the true story of Clarisse, 21, French au pair who came to USA with her childhood best friend. Find more about her on Snapchat (@claclaaaaaa) and Instagram.
Chapter 1: I should have listened to my intuition…
My first family was my final choice; very good first impressions.”They look perfect.” Super nice, organized, one child, good city: Virginia Beach, 2 minutes away from the beach, frankly everything was perfect. I had a second contact with a family in Miami: 2 children but I wasn’t interested so I matched with the first one.
My best friend found a family a few days after I said yes. We were able (after long negotiations) to leave at the same time, the adventure really started then!!
Chapter 2: A total nightmare
“Give spinach at the breakfast because he did not eat his dinner last night, watch him vomit, and tell him to continue.”
For me it was too much, I refused to do that. The dad was so manipulative that I still wonder if the problem did not come from me. So I spoke with the former au pairs and they all told me the same thing: “leave this house now because every month will be worse and worse!”Then I decided to rematch…
Chapter 3: Agency troubles
Pause ! So the family had the right to seek a new au pair for 2 weeks while I could not do anything,? it’s a joke!
Chapter 4: My host dad hacked my Facebook account
To give you examples of my last week : they said that they didn’t care that I don’t know where to sleep the Thursday night, that it was no longer their problem, that despite circumstances I should not use my phone during working hours, that my new family was exactly like them, that I would have nothing in common with them… They made me work all day Thursday (until 6pm and I left at 7pm). It was a total relief finally left. The host dad deleted me on Facebook and was not there to say goodbye, but it was better like this.And the icing on the cake, the next day after I left the house he hacked my Facebook in order to read all my messages. I had a work phone (because they didn’t like iPhones so I couldn’t use my iPhone, so weird!!!). I remember that I had deleted every message and disconnected myself from every application. But I could not disconnect from my email account.
So, he hacked my Facebook and read all my messages.
Chapter 5: Hope, new host family and happiness
Finally, all of this to tell you that despite everything that happened to me, I met exceptional people, I had the support of my friends and family in France but also the support of people I hardly knew. And I think that with an experience like mine you realize how much people can consider you as a vulgar merchandise but also the total opposite too. I regret absolutely nothing and I am finally happy to have lived through this because I grew up, I’m more mature and my morale is steel!!!!
Some au pair agencies consider you as a product but there will be people ready to help you and welcome you even if they do not know you, and this is a beautiful experience !!!!!
Currently, I am in a wonderful family that I love. 3 children, it’s a lot of work but it is also 3 times more love. I have plenty of trips and weekends planned in anticipation with my best friend. My message after this experience: always stay positive in life, the best is still to come!!
Founder of “Au Pairs Chronicles” and author of the novel “#AUPAIRCHRONICLES”, my main goal is to help and motivate people, including au pairs to live their dream. My favorite quote is ” Be somebody nobody thought you could be.”