8 things people don’t tell you before you return home


1) You’ll feel depressed

Yesterday you were in the country of your dream with the family that you’ve created and friends that you’ll never forget and here you are today, in your homeland where you were born and raised but it doesn’t fit, it feels unfamiliar, something is different…No, actually, everything is different because as I said…Yesterday, you were in the country of your dream where you were happy and found yourself there but without any transition you had to leave it all behind.

2) Everything in your country will appear smaller


For the people living in Australia or USA and your home country is in Europe, everything will look like it’s been downsized But don’t worry after   a few days, you’ll become accustomed to it.


3) Your friends won’t understand you anymore

It goes without saying that you’ve changed, however, your friends don’t realize it when they see you again. They’ll behave and treat you as if you never left and although a part of you feels happy, another  part is irritated because you feel like they’ll never fully understand the better and different person you’ve nurtured into whilst nothing different happened to them.

4) You need a plan
My biggest mistake  upon returning to France  after my life-changing two years in USA was the fact that I didn’t prepare for my future. I was so confused and stressed that I thought I had time but it was a terrible assumption.
Even if it’s as simple as filling out an application form for  a job or, make a plan! Whether you want to travel to another country or volunteer in a developing area, prepare and plan for your futureof  stress.
5) You will compare your dream country  to your home country for at least 6 full months

“In USA, cars are bigger”“Oh God I‘ve forgot that in France, people were rude” “Damn it! I need to go back to Australia, at least, my salary will be higher”

These are the type of sentences, that you’ll say and your friends will keep themselves from rolling their eyes at you.

6)  You’ll go through an emotional roller coaster phase

You’ll cry every single day for the first week, then a little bit less after the first month, and by the end of the 6th month you will be nostalgic. But no matter what happens, this country and the people you’ve met will stay in your heart for the rest of your life.

7) Your friends will keep reminding you on how different you’ve become based on your Facebook pictures (your look, your hair and even, your makeup)


 In your host country, you were so happy.
You eventually fell in love and became confident. Something that your friends and your family certainly didn’t miss. It’s like you are the main character from a TV show who physically evolved through the seasons.
8) You’ll create  a playlist from your adventure
When you return home, the only thing you’ll have left will be memories,emotions and songs that defined this incredible adventure. You’ll want to create a playlist that reminds you of the wonderful au pair adventures you once had. Some songs will instantly come to your mind as you think back to good memories. Others will accidentally come to your mind, maybe when you’ll hear them on the radio back home or in a store. Anyway, when you’ll hear them, your heart will start to melt and you’ll feel alive again, thinking about random and rich moments as tears will frighten to roll down your cheeks.

Founder of “Au Pairs Chronicles” and author of the novel “#AUPAIRCHRONICLES”, my main goal is to help and motivate people, including au pairs to live their dream. My favorite quote is ” Be somebody nobody thought you could be.”


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